USol Phenduka ukhusela ootata abangondliyo
Umntu odumileyo kunomathotholo uSol Phenduka uqalise incoko eshushu kwimidiya yoluntu emva kokuphendula kwividiyo apho umntu odumileyo kwimidiya uGogo Skhotheni ebuza ukuba indoda engamxhasi ngemali umntwana wayo kufuneka ivunyelwe ukufikelela ebantwaneni.
Esabelana nombono wakhe, uphikise ngelithi ukubona umntwana akufanele kuthathwe njengomvuzo onxulunyaniswa nemali.
Kodwa njengelungelo elisisiseko elikwanceda umntwana ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo.
“Ukubona umntwana luhlobo lwenkxaso, ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo kumntwana,” wabhala.
“Ukubona umntwana wakho akuyonto imbuyekezo. Lilungelo! Vumela umntwana abonakale. Umntwana uya kuqonda njengoko ekhula ukuba utata wakhe uyintoni.”
Uqhubeke walumkisa ukuba ukwala ukuba utata angangeni njengohlobo lwesohlwayo kunokubuyisela umva.
“Xa umohlwaya utata ngokumnqabela ukuba angene emntwaneni, loo mntwana uza kukuthiya xa ekhula aze aqonde into obuyenza,” wongeze watsho uSol Phenduka.
Amagqabaza akhe akhawuleza atsale izimvo ezahlukeneyo kwi-intanethi, abasebenzisi abaninzi bemxhasa kwaye bemchasa.
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“Andicingi ukuba utata ongabaxhasiyo abantwana bakhe ufanele ababone abantwana,” uphendule watsho uPenuel.
Nangona evuma ukuba ixesha elichithwa kunye linokubalwa njengenkxaso, wabuza ngezinto ezinokwenzeka malunga nokhathalelo lwabantwana.
“Ewe, ixesha elifanelekileyo lingabonwa njengendlela yokuxhasa.
Kodwa loo mntwana wayesitya ntoni ngaphambi kokuba eze kuwe, unxibe ntoni, ngubani ohlawulele uthutho lokufika kuwe, ngubani ohlawulele idatha yokunxibelelana nomama?”
UPenuel uphikise ngelithi nootata abangasebenziyo kufuneka babonise umzamo obonakalayo.
“Kwanamadoda angasebenziyo anokwenza iimpahla okanye iziqhamo/imifuno esele zisetyenzisiwe ukuze umntwana abonise injongo yokufaka isandla. Banokuboleka imali kusapho,” utshilo.
“Kwimeko apho umama womntwana engenayo imali kwaye exhomekeke kwisibonelelo somntwana, akanalo ilungelo lokungavumi ukufikelela,” utshilo.
Nangona kunjalo, uPenuel ugxininise ukuba uxanduva lwezemali alufanele lumiselwe ngumama yedwa.
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“Asingomama omele agqibe ukuba ingakanani inkxaso-mali eyaneleyo.
Utata kufuneka abale ixabiso elifanelekileyo leendleko zokuphila zomntwana ngokwendlela yakhe yokuphila aze athumele isiqingatha,” utshilo.
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Uqukumbele ngomyalezo oqinileyo wokuxhasa ootata ababandakanyekayo, wongeza ngelithi, “Amadoda athintelwa ukufikelela ngelixa egcina abantwana bawo okanye ezama ukwenza njalo, nawo kufuneka ayeke.”
